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The Call to Courage: Key Lessons from Brene Brown’s Netflix Documentary

'Vulnerability is hard, and it's scary, and it feels dangerous. But it's not as hard or scary or dangerous as getting to the end of our lives and having to ask ourselves, "What if I would've shown up?"'

The Call to Courage, Brené Brown’s Netflix documentary that has already generated significant publicity and praise, is a mix of difficult lessons, touching anecdotes, lighthearted stories and one big, overwhelming message, perfectly summarised by her daily morning mantra:

Today I’ll choose courage over comfort. I can’t make commitments for tomorrow, but today I’m gonna [sic] choose to be brave, and I know what that means.

A message that sounds wonderfully brave and optimistic, but is so difficult to enact, even the vulnerability expert had to talk herself into it. Prior to her famous TEDxHouston talk- which has now been watched 40 million times - she made a last minute change, scrapping her usual presentation of ‘variables mitigating self-conscious affect’ and instead talking about vulnerability in a vulnerable way.

The Hangover

In the aftermath, Brown had what she describes as the worst ‘vulnerability hangover’ imaginable. Fully committing to falling down this toxic rabbit hole, she began reading the hateful comments directed at her - ranging from quips about her appearance to death wishes - which served to only solidify this regret.

The fact that this was such a significant choice for an expert on vulnerability says a lot about how hard this process truly is. So many of us go through life holding back, playing small and staying quiet, too afraid of falling down, making mistakes, losing face and being exposed. Brown’s documentary brings home why for those trying to pursue a rich, honest and brave life, this just won’t cut it.

After stumbling across an inspiring quote from Theodore Roosevelt, three things became clear to Brown.
 

First, some inspiration:

I’m going to live in the arena.
I’m going to be brave with my life.
I’m gonna show up.
I’m going to take chances.


Second, a realisation:

Vulnerability is not about winning. It’s not about losing. It’s having the courage to show up when you can’t control the outcome.
 

Third, a declaration:

If you are not in the arena getting your ass [sic] kicked on occasion because you were being brave, I am not interested in or open to your feedback about my work. Period.

 

Initially this may not seem relevant to the corporate world, but according to Brown:

No vulnerability = no creativity
No tolerance for failure = no innovation

If your team isn’t willing to create a culture that’s vulnerable, it will become a team unable to create. She further clarifies: it isn’t that being brave might lead to failure, it’s that being brave most certainly will lead to failure.

But there’s a catch.

Feedback and criticism should be sought from those who value you because of your imperfections, while feedback from those unwilling to get into the arena, to be brave, to be vulnerable, isn’t worth a minute of your time.

You can not take criticism or feedback from people who are not being brave with their lives.

Choosing courage over comfort

Brown’s arresting documentary oscillates between funny, lighthearted, painfully personal, poignant, frank, and above all else, vulnerable. Her style is relatable yet powerful, giving us the sense that we know her intimately and that she sees us, with all our flaws, and is holding us accountable. It’s little wonder she commands such a powerful profile in 2019, with her name easily rolling off the tongue in the same breath as mega-star Oprah Winfrey.

While there are many lessons throughout the documentary, the overwhelming insight from The Call to Courage can be summarised with five simple words, a ringing call to arms that will shift the way you interact in the workplace, have hard conversations and take risks:


Answer the call to courage.

 

Brave leaders are never silent around hard things.

You spend half your time at work, and not being vulnerable will eat you alive, warns Brown. It’s time to show up, be seen, and lean in.

 

It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better.The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.

Theodore Roosevelt, the Man in the Arena. April 23, 1910.

 

Powerhouse Brené Brown will be presenting Brené Brown Live in Australia this July/August, sharing insights, lessons and actionable advice on how to lead bravely. Answer the call by securing your seat here.

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